MISTAKE 1: Being A "Nice Guy" (There's a difference from being a Good Guy)

Attractive women never seem to be attracted “nice” guys? Just like me, I’m sure you’ve had attractive female friends that always seemed to date “jerks”… but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

 

What’s going on here?

 

Women don’t base their choices of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. To men this often does not seem logical, and our logical mind does not like to accept thing that dont make sense. it’s hard to ACCEPT… but GET OVER IT or you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

 

Being nice doesn’t make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. And being NICE doesn’t make a woman CHOOSE you.

 

Without tension, there can be no attraction. “Sexual Tension?” Well, there’s a reason it’s “Sexual.” Nice guys try to eliminate ALL conflict, ALL tension from their interactions with women because they mistakingly believe that by doing so, the woman will like them.

 

Starting to make sense, logically its not right to be nice

 

When you can create that tension, you will be taken out of the “nice guy” category. Be it by a devilish smile, or a suggestive comment that get’s the wheels in the girl’s brain churning, there’s something there that is NOT complacent or safe.

MISTAKE 2: "Convincing Her To Like You"

So you’ve meet a women you REALLY like… but she’s just notinterested? Right! You feel this need to  “convince” the woman to feel differently.

 

You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”.Think about it. If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being “reasonable” with her?

 

But we all do it.

 

When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Sadly this technique rarely works. We get so into a girl, and when we find out she doesn’t feel the same way, we try to convince her of all the reasons WHY she should reciprocate our feelings. That “Sexual Tension” we talked about earlier is not present. The guy has failed to engage the woman on any level other than “trust and comfort.” He has, in essence, failed to seduce her.

 

I like to think there are ways to turn this situation around, but one thing is for certain, arguing with the girl and trying to explain to her using logic why she should like you will never, ever work.

MISTAKE 3: Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission

In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission”.

 

Another HORRIBLE idea. Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them… EVER. Don’t get me wrong here.You don’t have to treat women BADLY for them to like you but you will never succeed by looking for approval. Women are not attracted to this type of man. They want someone to lead

 

Let’s face it. People are lazy and dont want to make decisions for themselves. They don’t want to be in charge. They want leaders, a cause, a belief to invest themselves in. When it comes to women, they want a STRONG MAN to be with. I don’t mean spend 6 days a week at the gym doing weights strong. I mean a man with a strong frame, strong beliefs, strong ideas. A man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to tell others what to do.

 

This is important, because most guys have been trained to put women on pedestals, to worship them like some type of special flower. But women are people. When you exhault them, you put them in a position they don’t want to be in. You put them in CONTROL. The woman suddenly becomes the one who has to make the decisions, who has to carry on the relationship, and frankly, she has too many other options available to her to do that.

 

Part of attracting women comes down to getting the woman you want to qualify to you, to accept the challenges you present to her. In essence, to get her to adopt your frame, and do what YOU want to do.

MISTAKE 4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With Food And Gifts

How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn’t treat her even HALF as well as you did?

If you’re like me, then you’ve had it happen a LOT. Well guess what?

It’s only NATURAL when this happens…

That’s right, I said NATURAL.

 

When you do these things, you send a clear message:

 

“I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection”.

 

Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION. Concentrate on create an experience, a memory when it come to taking a girl out on a date. Be memorable rather than expensive.

It comes off as begging. Supplication. It’s you seeking a type of approval from a woman by “romancing” her. In the meantime, you’re eliminating that necessary tension that needs to exist for attraction. It’s okay to “go out” with a girl, but you don’t need to break the bank or shower her with gifts for her to like you. Sharing a cup of coffee or a drink is fine.

MISTAKE 5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In The Relationship

Attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.

 

An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

 

Sharing your feelings with a woman too early on is much like showing your opponent you have a straight flush in a high stakes poker game. When you tell a woman you have strong feelings for her early on, you eliminate the sexual tension that attraction relies on. You take away the uncertainty of “Does he like me or not?” you put her fears and anticipations to rest.Romance is important, don’t take that away to early

 

Not only that, but you exhault her and put yourself in the position of a begger. NOT the place you want to be in. Best to hide your intentions, and get HER to express her feelings for YOU first. Only then is it appropriate to tell her, because then she feels like she’s EARNED those feelings.

MISTAKE 6: Women and men are different when it comes to ATTRACTION.

When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

 

What about women?

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

 

If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

 

You have to LEARN how to do this. and ANY guy can learn how…

 

Men often use mental barriers which they then project into the real world. Things like “She won’t like me because I’m too bald, fat, ugly, etc.” That’s because in our reality as men, we do not find women who are ugly to be attractive. But when it comes to women, who are more emotional creatures and rely more on their feelings than logical thought when it comes to attraction, the biggest thing that gets them going is how a man can COMMUNICATE with them.

 

Communicate in ways such as what we say, body language, and our actions as men. Taking strong frames of “I am the prize. I am a great guy and women will be lucky to be with me” and imposing that on others will get you the same effect as a gorgeous body and Brad Pitt-like face, if pulled off right.

 

Guys who are good looking have a distinct, inherent advantage over the rest of us. But if they are boring guys who fail to keep the woman engaged, she is going to move on and look for someone else. You may not be able to change your looks, but you CAN change the way you communicate with women. In that respect, there is hope for all of us, and in my opinion, this is the area where Double Your Dating shines the most.

MISTAKE 7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks

MOST women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks.

 

One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started… because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age.

And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. If you avoid places that attract these women you’ll find this next few lines very insightful

 

There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet…

And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

The Looks and Money barrier is just a social construct of your own making. I know LOTS of guys who AREN’T good looking and AREN’T rich who get an AMAZING amount of pussy, all because they are cool, interesting guys. Don’t settle if you’re not happy.

 

For men, it’s hard to imagine this as being true, because if we see a woman we don’t find attractive, we don’t want to sleep with her. She could be the coolest chick in the world, but if we can’t get a boner for her, we wouldn’t want to have sex with her. However, the same is not true for women. Women don’t get boners. They get aroused in different ways, and this is what most guys fail to understand.

 

When a woman says “Oh, I’m not attracted to short guys,” that’s not necessarily the truth. It just means that short guys don’t make her feel the same way that tall guys do. But if a short guy were to come along and make her feel the way she wants to, you can bet the barn she’s going to sleep with him, despite his height.

It’s all about setting the right frame and having the right beliefs.

MISTAKE 8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women

Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

 

Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over… Women aren’t attracted to Wussies! Women are attracted to power, to leaders, to free thinkers….to an idea

 

Part of giving away your power is adopting the woman’s frame. Entering HER reality. When you let the woman you are with control the underlying meaning of the interaction you are having with her, you put yourself in a position where SHE determines what is true and what isn’t. When you ask her questions, you enter her reality deeper and deeper. You give up control.

 

When you do this, you take away sexual tension, and shuck all responsibility for the relationship. And like I said before, women do not want that burden. It’s always best to chellenge the woman, get her to qualify to you, and pull back, to the point where SHE is the aggressor, where SHE is persuing YOU.

MISTAKE 9: Not Knowing What to do

Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That’s ten TIMES. It’ scary,  if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

 

be prepared or you will probably screw it up…and LOSE EVERYTHING. I personally don’t like to say this but it’s often subtle mistake or act of neediness that ruin the chance to be with a woman.

 

It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman… from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom. In short: It’s good to have a structure.

 

It’s also good to have experience. You need to know your stuff — your openers, your routines, your phase shifts, your kino games, your cold reads, etc. And more importantly, it’s important to know how to put it all together, and how to act.

 

Twenty-six trained himself to do this by taking EVERY interaction he had with women, be they ugly or hot, as far as he could so he could understand this structure and practice the late game. Women do notice details, and they are empathetic to the point where they can sense what you want to do (especially since most men are not in control of their body language) . Part of being a confident, cool guy is being experienced. Being comfortable making your move, knowing what to do, not caring what others think or if the girl rejects him.

 

And the best way to get comfortable doing this is with PRACTICE.

MISTAKE 10: Not Getting HELP

This is the biggest mistake of all.

 

This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

 

I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help.

 

Hey, I’ve been there myself.

 

Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful with women…

 

About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn’t know how to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.

 

It frustrated the hell out of me.

 

One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out, but I just couldn’t get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night… right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be successful with women and dating.

 

Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out.

 

I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly. I’ve dated models, I’ve dated actresses, and I’ve dated nice, normal, regular girls as well.