A lot of people tend to associate the term “alpha male” with a fierce leader-of-the pack who can hunt and improve his species. However, like all other things, the term has evolved with time. Humans with time have adapted to live in larger groups and have significantly more social intelligence than chimpanzees. We recognise much more complex social relationships than simple dominance, including the idea that different individuals have authority in different areas. You see a lot of people misinterpret the idea of being an alpha male as simply being ‘dominant’ over other men and women, when in reality; ‘dominance’ is just a tiny aspect of the bigger picture.To be an alpha male in todays society requires more than a 6 month subscription to a gym  I want to help men the world over reclaim the term and learn what it is to be a true alpha male. There is a higher level of categorisation. That is you are either a male or a man. A real man embodies the strengths of each class of male and is the one who finds real love and real success in the long term.

He should do things like be assertive, honest, loyal, open minded, funny, brave, gentle, strong and competitive within reason. He should show humility toward others. He should not be afraid to bear his scars and will be open to help when he needs it. Finally, he should be a protector and leader. He shouldn’t just aim to dominate everyone and everything like the commonly perceived “Alpha males” do and he shouldn’t just expect to always have things go his way.
Essentially you’re a thoughtful person who has issues with confidence precisely because he absorbs information about the social world better than most people. Which would make you like me. That increased social awareness in todays world can lead you to doubt your own self confidence. Essentially rather than just absorb all this information, you need to focus on anlysing and projecting the information.


How to become a Leader

So here’s my advice based on personal experience – you’ll be an “alpha male” when you develop true confidence in your abilities, and you’re with people who recognise that. Remember to be more than the misappropriated pop-psychology based alpha on the behaviour of animals who are much stupider than you are.

The 20 Traits of the Alpha male

1.  An Alpha male is passionate —

A true Alpha male has goals and ambitions, that set him apart from normal “average men”. He follows these to the ultimate end, and ends up living a fulfilled life. Women are very attracted to passionate men with ambition. They see these kind of men becoming very successful in life and in their subconcious minds. Consider it an investment in a man, much like a stock or a property. You cannot be Alpha without having the passion to live a fulfilling life.

2. An Alpha male is confident, believing and investing in his abilities —

Human are designed to follow and they want him to radiate confidence. He does not fear anyone, he does not really care how people think of him. Confidence is him and this makes woman and men want to follow him

3.  Composed, Collected & Courageous —

An alpha male never loses composure, he is always himself, thoughtful and calculated. Emotion does not dictate his resolve. He doesn’t lack fear, rather, he accepts that it exists and faces it at every opportunity.

4.Alpha Males understand failure is only temperary–

Learn from the experience and move ahead with life. This is how he overcomes the challenges in his life. He understands the highs and lows and does not allow them to consume his identity. Alpha males throughout history, Achilles and Napoleon, saw opportunity where others saw failure. The alpha male is humble. Some of this comes from his ability to laugh at himself. No matter what he accomplishes, his head will never balloon.

5.  Being a natural leader —

A true leader make descitions and choices, when those around him cannot. Yes it’s obvious but you need to step up and make choices In any company or organization, alpha males will always be put in a challenging position and because of this, he will be highly regarded and compensated. He will always be the best at what he does because he solves problems

6. Alpha Males understand failure is only temperary–

A real Alpha male is very self- driven and self disciplined. Once he decides his target, all his attention will be at achieving his goal. Women prefer men who make the decisions.This is also why Alpha males drive women crazy, they are men of their own, they don’t need to be told what they should do.

7.  The alpha males every word has meaning —

He doesn’t talk simply to hear the sound of his own voice but to project thoughts and meaning. His words are chosen carefully. He respects their power. Whether he’s writing or speaking, he doesn’t speak to be hear, he speaks when he has something of value to say. He’s never the loudest one in the room.

8. Dresses like he is in control —

What people think is not important to him. But he still dresses the best way possible. Its just part of his nature, after all, he wants the best in life! He knows that people look up to him and he keeps himself looking sharp

9.  Contantly works to improve himself —

He knows that change is an internal process and takes time. He does not blame anyone for his mistakesand take responibility for his actions and this allow him to constantly grow. Remember having purpose and drive? For a real Alpha male, there is nothing wrong with admitting when he has done something wrong. Its all about moving on with life, finding a solution, moving forward.

10. Challenging with women —

He Chooses women and they choose him! He does not throw himself at women and start acting needy with women. Importantly and I want you to remember this “he doesn’t try to convince women to like him”. The alpha knows this doesnt work. He isn’t a clinger. He doesn’t go out of his way to please everyone because that’s a futile endeavor. He won’t let a woman run his life. He’s his own man. He won’t be with a control-freak or a jealous woman. He has the social intelligence to see that storm before it peeks it’s nasty little head.

11.  A True Alpha male is not bossy —

He likes to listen to others’ opinions and collectively find the solution. He uses the reources available to him. That’s why his co- workers love him! His team always wins.The alpha male knows how to treat a lady. He respects women, often because he’s had some great one’s in his life. He’s chivalrous. He helps her reach her dreams, all-the-while moving closer to attaining his own.

12. The alpha male has a purpose that does’nt need to be explained —

An alpha male does not need the approval to make him feel better about himself. This may be his most defining trait. Man men wander through life trying to find their self, the alpha male is too busy creating his Self. Every day he work to achieve his goals and sets the rules baed on his strong beliefs. no magazine tells him what he is suppose to discover.

13. Alpha males are very clever, smart and cunning —

He will assess situations and find the best logical solutions. In business alpha males use there confidence to utilise their analytical and leadership skill .He knows what’s happening in the world around him and therefore can dictate the world around him.

14. Has a strong and honest value system —

This is a common misconception about alpha males and why many men fail to become true leaders. He is not abusive or arrogant and does not look down upon others. Many people confuse being an Alpha male and being a bully. Essentially, bullies are very agressive on the outside, alpha males are very calm, calculated and controlled people. The alpha male knows who he is, his values govern his life. He doesn’t stray from these values, in fact he stands up for them. Even when he stands alone in what he believes is right, he digs his heels in and fights.

15. Alpha males are opportunistic —

Strong men will always see the positive side of things and make the best out of what they have. The key to success is to take advantage of weaknesses. The alpha male is a warrior not a worrier. He understands that cetain things aren’t under his control. He does everything he can to control what hecan, but doesn’t worry about what he can’t. He’s not worried about tomorrow, he’s too busy working for today.

16. Alpha move at a different pace, they talk & move slowly —

It’ important to undertand that Alpha males move with purpose and deliberate. They have a way of attracting the audiences attention and they command this importance.An Alpha male will be very disciplined to be on time or earlier for a meeting and well prepared. He will therefor have enough time to observe and think through his strategy.they will take their time to turn their head and focus on you. You always have to prove worthy of their attention. There’s no quit in this man. He’s the tortose not the hare. He’s the last man standing.

17. The alpha male is a great communicator both verbal and non-verbal —

He allows his feelings to be expressed with positive body language and is not afraid to show his sexual side. Women love men who are not afraid to flirt and showing their sexuality. Alpha males allow women to explore their subconscious mind by their communication.

18. Alpha males have strength in character —

Women are the weaker sex, let’s leave the feminist view to the side and look at this from a purely biological tandpoint. Women will always look for comfort in Alpha males; men who are dominant.The kind of strength that will make a woman believe that she is safe with him and that he can protect her when it comes to that. interinsinctly we are designed to survive and replicate.

19.  He treats his body well —

Men of status often take immense care of their diet and their physique. They workout regularly, this also helps them become more focused on their goals and ambitions. This is why most Alpha’s are often in great physical condition.

20. A true alpha male doesn’t try to be an alpha male —

That’s where so many fail, it almost feels counter-intitiuve. He is interested in life, in living. He’s focussed on self improvement and the world around him. He genuinely cares about people. He passionately works hard. He’s excited by life, by the opportunity that each day presents. He’s genuine in every facet of who he is. Each of the characteristics are possessed by him naturally, or will be as he grows as a man. Bred from curiosity, a genuine nature and a warrior’s heart, he is who he is, and all others follow him wherever he will lead them

The Alpha Male’s Body Language
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The Alpha Male’s Body Language

Have you ever been out at a club or a pub and noticed how when some men walk into the venue, every woman in the joint automatically seems to scan them out? What it is about these men that stoke the curiosity of the opposite sex?

Here’s a little experiment that I want you to try out – the next time that you’re out on the town and feeling insecure or anxious, I want you to pay attention to your body language. Are you hunched over with your shoulders slouched? Does it feel like you’re trying to shrink yourself so as not to take up too much space? This is exactly the opposite of what an alpha male would be doing.

The alpha male’s posture is as relaxed as it is assertive. Stand tall with your shoulders back and your chest out. Take up as much space as you need to be comfortable; without being a total slouch. Straighten your neck and back and hold your head high.

Either place your hands on your hips or put them in your pockets with your thumbs out; and never hold them across your chest. And as always remember, balance is key. You don’t want to overly exaggerate your posture. That just looks silly.

The next time you watch a Marlon Brando, Clint Eastwood, Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt movie, pay attention to how their characters move on screen. The alpha male’s movements are always slow but deliberate; every action feels relaxed but purposeful. When you walk into a room, an office or a bar, walk in slowly but with purpose. If it helps, imagine yourself as the world’s greatest gladiator walking into the Coliseum to do battle.

One thing that I’ve noticed with men who are not alpha is that they always seem to speak really fucking fast. It’s as if they’re worried that if they stop talking people are going to stop paying attention to them. Alpha males on the other hand speak in a slow but deliberate manner. They aren’t afraid to include pauses in their conversation. They know that even if they let a moment of silence drag on for a minute, people are still going to be hanging onto whatever they say next.This manner of speaking has a powerful effect on people, but it might take a little practice. So make a conscious effort to begin with. Imagine that you’re Marlon Brando from The Godfather if you need to. You wouldn’t worry about someone not hanging onto every word you say now would you?
Eye contact
The ability to hold strong eye contact is another integral part of being a true alpha male. People who are insecure or intimidated don’t hold strong eye contact. Their eyes always dart about as if searching for a more comfortable spot to rest on.The alpha male, however, is present and his eye contact conveys that. So don’t be afraid of looking people in the eye when you talk to them. This might feel uncomfortable at first, but make a conscious effort and it’ll feel normal over time.
Let’s set the record straight, the notion that an alpha male is some overly serious, macho gruff-pot is a complete lie. Whenever you walk into a bar with a ‘tough’ or ‘serious’ look on your face, you’re not telling people that you’re alpha. You’re just telling them that you’re not very happy with your life and that you probably aren’t getting laid much. So don’t be afraid to have a nice, relaxed smile on your face at all times.
Now while there are a few exceptions (think Steve from The Tao of Steve) alpha males in general are well groomed. This doesn’t mean that you need to wear Tom Ford suits and designer eyewear. But paying attention to your wardrobe, your facial hair and overall grooming can go a long way. You wouldn’t ever see James Bond in an ill-fitting suit and bad hairdo would you?
The Alpha Male’s Personality
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The Alpha Male’s Personality

Now here’s where we get into the interesting stuff. While the alpha male’s body language is relatively easy to emulate, an alpha personality might take a little longer to cultivate. But remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day and nor is a true alpha male.

Alpha males lead interesting lives
Who would you rather hang out with at a party – Wolverine or Scott Summers? Part of the allure of an alpha male is that they all seem to lead such interesting lives. There’s never a boring moment around one. Now you might ask yourself, “what if my life isn’t all that interesting?” Well for fuck’s sake, go out and make it interesting.

Alpha males don’t qualify themselves
One of the biggest differences between an alpha male and a so called “beta” is that the beta will forever be trying to prove something to himself and to others. Every time a guy brags about his car or his job, what he’s really conveying is that he’s terrified that people won’t like and accept him for who he truly is. The alpha male on the other hand doesn’t brag about the car he owns, the places he’s been to or the girls he’s been with. In fact, he doesn’t feel the need to. He is confident enough in himself to know that people will like him for him without him having to prove anything to anyone.

Alpha males are confident
Now confidence can be a bit of a tricky concept to understand. Think about it, what actually is confidence? Well I’m a firm believer that the only thing that creates true confidence is competence. For example, take the character Gannicus from the T.V series Spartacus (which you totally should watch, in case you haven’t). He’s supremely confident and forever cocky, but he backs this up with some mad skills with the sword.So it doesn’t matter if you’re a software programmer or a rockstar, the key to embodying true alpha male confidence is in becoming the best at whatever it is you do. There’s a reason why the Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerbergs of the world probably get as much action as the Brad Pitts and Johnny Depps.
Alpha males live in their own reality
One of the most alluring things about the alpha male is that he’s in his own reality. For example, think about Marlon Brando from The Godfather. If an unknown man were to walk into his office with a gun, he’d probably pour two drinks and ask the man to sit down. This mindset will take time to cultivate, but once you do, you’ll realize that having your own strong reality can help you saunter through most of life’s situations with ease and grace.
Alpha males have a sense of humor
One of the most important characteristics of an alpha male is that they don’t themselves or the world around them too seriously. David Duchovny’s character Hank Moody from the T.V series Californication is one of the best examples of this that I can think of. Hank’s nonchalant, devil-may-care attitude not only gets him out of some pretty messy situations, but it also gets him into the pants of some pretty gorgeous women.
The Alpha Male’s Social Skills
At the end of the day, one of the most important aspects of an alpha male is in his ability to take control and lead whatever social situation or group he’s in.
They are able to be the center of conversation
Alpha males in general love being the center of attention and are able to hold the focus of one person or a hundred people with equal ease. When you’re out at a club or a pub, you’ll notice how some men seem to hold court over a large group of people. These alpha males will usually be the ones leading the conversation and the ones who everyone turns to for approval and guidance.At the same time, true alpha males are also humble in nature. They aren’t afraid to compliment and appreciate others. They don’t feel as if this lowers their own value. Instead they know that they are a source of value and validation to others.
They are able to lead
All alpha males are natural leaders. And here’s the thing, it doesn’t matter if you’re the captain of a sports team or the CEO of a startup, the ability to lead and direct a group of people is a powerful alpha quality.
They are at ease with uncomfortable situations
One of the most important aspects of an alpha male’s social skill set is that he’s unfazed by whatever situation he finds himself in. For example, I was once in a conversation with an attractive woman and two guys she was with at a bar when she mentioned that she’s always been curious about being with another woman. The other two men seemed terribly uncomfortable and were pretty much at a loss at what to say. However I simply laughed and said, “high five, me too.”Now I’m not going to lie to you, there are some men who seem to be born with these alpha male traits and characteristics. These are usually the guys we refer to as ‘naturals’ who seem to have a shit-ton of luck with women without ever having to read a book on game or pickup. However, there’s no law that says that just because you weren’t born with these traits, or lucky enough to develop them at a younger age, you’re destined to a ‘beta’ existence for the rest of your life.As with all skills in life, embodying the mindset and spirit of a true alpha male is something that you can cultivate, provided that you work hard at it. So go live the alpha lives that you were always meant to live!

How to stop being a beta male!

Perhaps you have been wondering why other men get more attracted glances from the opposite sexes than you when you thought that there’s nothing really that much difference between them and you especially if you’d talk about physical appearances. And because you worry too much about this concern, you probably have splurged and treat yourself to gigantic makeovers just to make sure you won’t be left behind in terms of alpha male visual appearance or even aiming to outdo this lucky male species around. This action of yours could bring your aura a difference and could elevate your charm into a higher level but it seems this is not entirely enough. Those lucky guys are still getting those glances from the dreamy eyes of many women. What could be those alpha males possess that you don’t?

With this case at hand, you should have looked long ago on how your vibes are affecting those human beings who belong to the opposite sexes. Notice how high-status-man strut their trot around; notice how they move carelessly but confidently; notice how they project so well when you thought they really lack the real value of a face or physique. Perhaps, you have been too consumed on the belief that physical being per se is the most important aspect in order to attract women. This is where you could be wrong but you can change your outlook easily and emanate the charm and attraction you so crave about. The secret of alpha males lies in their body language.


The truth why these males move around with so much difference than the likes of you is they know how to project their body language and ooze with so much animalistic appeal that make them hot stuff among women. The alpha male’s body language make women drool over them they practically would follow them around just so they’d get a chance to meet these hot stuffs. These alpha males move around with ease, natural, and relaxed way you would almost believe they are oblivious to what is happening around them but in truth, alert and smart enough to know the buzz around.


Alpha males don’t allow worries to grasp their attention too much, they let these slip away from them and instead take things in neutral manner so that they won’t dwell much on thoughts that would take their logical sense away. You would find these alpha males generally move unhurriedly but with an exact sense of direction and greater control of time so that they evidence of nervousness won’t appear and do not produce jerky movements like that with beta males. Simple body languages like these are not that difficult to master.


If you would want to portray aura like of those alpha males and end those lousy beta male movements of yours, it wouldn’t take you long before you realize that more women would be clamoring for your attention. First off, start with assessing your body language. Perhaps you only need to break the thin line etched between being a beta male and transform yourself into an alpha male. Perhaps, your body language is the one that needs a total makeover and gain that impression and characteristic that alpha males are rich of. By starting to eliminate your body language or your movements and behaviors that convey lack of confidence on your part or being unsure of yourself, this could be the turning point to release those unconscious turn-off habits of yours.

As mentioned earlier, the key to being an alpha male is by being relaxed in all your movements. If you ooze a natural appeal, you could be easily trap attention and instantly get noticed by those human species belonging to opposite sexes without exerting too much effort on your part.