A lot of people tend to associate the term “alpha male” with a fierce leader-of-the pack who can hunt and improve his species. However, like all other things, the term has evolved with time. Humans with time have adapted to live in larger groups and have significantly more social intelligence than chimpanzees. We recognise much more complex social relationships than simple dominance, including the idea that different individuals have authority in different areas. You see a lot of people misinterpret the idea of being an alpha male as simply being ‘dominant’ over other men and women, when in reality; ‘dominance’ is just a tiny aspect of the bigger picture.To be an alpha male in todays society requires more than a 6 month subscription to a gym I want to help men the world over reclaim the term and learn what it is to be a true alpha male. There is a higher level of categorisation. That is you are either a male or a man. A real man embodies the strengths of each class of male and is the one who finds real love and real success in the long term.
So here’s my advice based on personal experience – you’ll be an “alpha male” when you develop true confidence in your abilities, and you’re with people who recognise that. Remember to be more than the misappropriated pop-psychology based alpha on the behaviour of animals who are much stupider than you are.
A true Alpha male has goals and ambitions, that set him apart from normal “average men”. He follows these to the ultimate end, and ends up living a fulfilled life. Women are very attracted to passionate men with ambition. They see these kind of men becoming very successful in life and in their subconcious minds. Consider it an investment in a man, much like a stock or a property. You cannot be Alpha without having the passion to live a fulfilling life.
Human are designed to follow and they want him to radiate confidence. He does not fear anyone, he does not really care how people think of him. Confidence is him and this makes woman and men want to follow him
An alpha male never loses composure, he is always himself, thoughtful and calculated. Emotion does not dictate his resolve. He doesn’t lack fear, rather, he accepts that it exists and faces it at every opportunity.
Learn from the experience and move ahead with life. This is how he overcomes the challenges in his life. He understands the highs and lows and does not allow them to consume his identity. Alpha males throughout history, Achilles and Napoleon, saw opportunity where others saw failure. The alpha male is humble. Some of this comes from his ability to laugh at himself. No matter what he accomplishes, his head will never balloon.
A true leader make descitions and choices, when those around him cannot. Yes it’s obvious but you need to step up and make choices In any company or organization, alpha males will always be put in a challenging position and because of this, he will be highly regarded and compensated. He will always be the best at what he does because he solves problems
A real Alpha male is very self- driven and self disciplined. Once he decides his target, all his attention will be at achieving his goal. Women prefer men who make the decisions.This is also why Alpha males drive women crazy, they are men of their own, they don’t need to be told what they should do.
He doesn’t talk simply to hear the sound of his own voice but to project thoughts and meaning. His words are chosen carefully. He respects their power. Whether he’s writing or speaking, he doesn’t speak to be hear, he speaks when he has something of value to say. He’s never the loudest one in the room.
What people think is not important to him. But he still dresses the best way possible. Its just part of his nature, after all, he wants the best in life! He knows that people look up to him and he keeps himself looking sharp
He knows that change is an internal process and takes time. He does not blame anyone for his mistakesand take responibility for his actions and this allow him to constantly grow. Remember having purpose and drive? For a real Alpha male, there is nothing wrong with admitting when he has done something wrong. Its all about moving on with life, finding a solution, moving forward.
He Chooses women and they choose him! He does not throw himself at women and start acting needy with women. Importantly and I want you to remember this “he doesn’t try to convince women to like him”. The alpha knows this doesnt work. He isn’t a clinger. He doesn’t go out of his way to please everyone because that’s a futile endeavor. He won’t let a woman run his life. He’s his own man. He won’t be with a control-freak or a jealous woman. He has the social intelligence to see that storm before it peeks it’s nasty little head.
He likes to listen to others’ opinions and collectively find the solution. He uses the reources available to him. That’s why his co- workers love him! His team always wins.The alpha male knows how to treat a lady. He respects women, often because he’s had some great one’s in his life. He’s chivalrous. He helps her reach her dreams, all-the-while moving closer to attaining his own.
An alpha male does not need the approval to make him feel better about himself. This may be his most defining trait. Man men wander through life trying to find their self, the alpha male is too busy creating his Self. Every day he work to achieve his goals and sets the rules baed on his strong beliefs. no magazine tells him what he is suppose to discover.
He will assess situations and find the best logical solutions. In business alpha males use there confidence to utilise their analytical and leadership skill .He knows what’s happening in the world around him and therefore can dictate the world around him.
This is a common misconception about alpha males and why many men fail to become true leaders. He is not abusive or arrogant and does not look down upon others. Many people confuse being an Alpha male and being a bully. Essentially, bullies are very agressive on the outside, alpha males are very calm, calculated and controlled people. The alpha male knows who he is, his values govern his life. He doesn’t stray from these values, in fact he stands up for them. Even when he stands alone in what he believes is right, he digs his heels in and fights.
Strong men will always see the positive side of things and make the best out of what they have. The key to success is to take advantage of weaknesses. The alpha male is a warrior not a worrier. He understands that cetain things aren’t under his control. He does everything he can to control what hecan, but doesn’t worry about what he can’t. He’s not worried about tomorrow, he’s too busy working for today.
It’ important to undertand that Alpha males move with purpose and deliberate. They have a way of attracting the audiences attention and they command this importance.An Alpha male will be very disciplined to be on time or earlier for a meeting and well prepared. He will therefor have enough time to observe and think through his strategy.they will take their time to turn their head and focus on you. You always have to prove worthy of their attention. There’s no quit in this man. He’s the tortose not the hare. He’s the last man standing.
He allows his feelings to be expressed with positive body language and is not afraid to show his sexual side. Women love men who are not afraid to flirt and showing their sexuality. Alpha males allow women to explore their subconscious mind by their communication.
Women are the weaker sex, let’s leave the feminist view to the side and look at this from a purely biological tandpoint. Women will always look for comfort in Alpha males; men who are dominant.The kind of strength that will make a woman believe that she is safe with him and that he can protect her when it comes to that. interinsinctly we are designed to survive and replicate.
Men of status often take immense care of their diet and their physique. They workout regularly, this also helps them become more focused on their goals and ambitions. This is why most Alpha’s are often in great physical condition.
That’s where so many fail, it almost feels counter-intitiuve. He is interested in life, in living. He’s focussed on self improvement and the world around him. He genuinely cares about people. He passionately works hard. He’s excited by life, by the opportunity that each day presents. He’s genuine in every facet of who he is. Each of the characteristics are possessed by him naturally, or will be as he grows as a man. Bred from curiosity, a genuine nature and a warrior’s heart, he is who he is, and all others follow him wherever he will lead them
The Alpha Male’s Body Language
Have you ever been out at a club or a pub and noticed how when some men walk into the venue, every woman in the joint automatically seems to scan them out? What it is about these men that stoke the curiosity of the opposite sex?
Here’s a little experiment that I want you to try out – the next time that you’re out on the town and feeling insecure or anxious, I want you to pay attention to your body language. Are you hunched over with your shoulders slouched? Does it feel like you’re trying to shrink yourself so as not to take up too much space? This is exactly the opposite of what an alpha male would be doing.
The alpha male’s posture is as relaxed as it is assertive. Stand tall with your shoulders back and your chest out. Take up as much space as you need to be comfortable; without being a total slouch. Straighten your neck and back and hold your head high.
Either place your hands on your hips or put them in your pockets with your thumbs out; and never hold them across your chest. And as always remember, balance is key. You don’t want to overly exaggerate your posture. That just looks silly.
The next time you watch a Marlon Brando, Clint Eastwood, Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt movie, pay attention to how their characters move on screen. The alpha male’s movements are always slow but deliberate; every action feels relaxed but purposeful. When you walk into a room, an office or a bar, walk in slowly but with purpose. If it helps, imagine yourself as the world’s greatest gladiator walking into the Coliseum to do battle.
The Alpha Male’s Personality
Now here’s where we get into the interesting stuff. While the alpha male’s body language is relatively easy to emulate, an alpha personality might take a little longer to cultivate. But remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day and nor is a true alpha male.
Alpha males lead interesting lives
Who would you rather hang out with at a party – Wolverine or Scott Summers? Part of the allure of an alpha male is that they all seem to lead such interesting lives. There’s never a boring moment around one. Now you might ask yourself, “what if my life isn’t all that interesting?” Well for fuck’s sake, go out and make it interesting.
Alpha males don’t qualify themselves
One of the biggest differences between an alpha male and a so called “beta” is that the beta will forever be trying to prove something to himself and to others. Every time a guy brags about his car or his job, what he’s really conveying is that he’s terrified that people won’t like and accept him for who he truly is. The alpha male on the other hand doesn’t brag about the car he owns, the places he’s been to or the girls he’s been with. In fact, he doesn’t feel the need to. He is confident enough in himself to know that people will like him for him without him having to prove anything to anyone.