Kino Escalation

How to Physically Escalate with Women

Kino escalation is probably the single most important aspect of game

It is also one of the biggest sticking points men trip over. Proper kino escalation begins with the very first stages of a set, and it continues and builds slowly all through the set, culminating in relationships & sex. Physical attraction.
Touching a woman sends powerful signals. It says that you’re confident and dominate. It says that you’re not worried about scaring her off. It says that physicality is a natural and normal part of your life. All that adds up to another benefit: it turns women on. Women like being touched calmly, confidently, by men.

As the man, it is your job to initiate and escalate the physical contact. You cannot rely on the girl to take these steps. Most girls do not dare. Furthermore, if you do not escalate the girl may place you in the friend zone and assume you are only interested in friendship. Trying to suddenly go for a kiss will then seem inappropriate. You instead want the kiss to be a natural part of the escalation.

Traditionally, men are expected to take the risks and lead the way through the entire series of physical steps towards sex. This gives the girl the power to reject him at any step on the way. Although you must be the one who takes the steps, you do not have to take the risks. If you understand how to move smoothly from one step to the next you can avoid these issues altogether.

This is the process of kino escalation, where kino means touch. Kino escalation is done in steps, slowly over time, with the goal of making the girl progressively more comfortable with your touch and proximity.





You can talk a good game and have great body language, but without kino, you ain’t getting the girl Take the first kiss. If you haven’t done any kino beforehand, the girl is like, “Where did that come from?” Makes sense. You don’t touch her all night, and all of sudden you gonna kiss her?


When you don’t kino, an interaction feels kinda formal and unfriendly. You kinda assume you have this immense block of ice between the two of you. Kino assumes rapport. Without kino, you’re basically having an intellectual conversation. But when you kino, damn. Don’t you feel more at home and comfortable? You feel loose and free.




Women thrive on touch. In the book called “The Five Love Languages.”It claims there are five ways to communicate love to a woman. One of them is touch. Of the five ways, touch is THE one language all women crave. Women crave touch. Touch is love. we MUST to understand how to touch woman.


Touch makes things REAL the way that words can’t. Same thing happens when we kino a girl. We stand out because we’ve become real. Words are abstract, but kino is real. Kino gets us a REAL, concrete, bodily connection with a woman that words and body language alone can never achieve.




Different interpretations, different frames. The word “frame” means something like interpretation. “Control” means something like assertion. Instead of letting others be the judge of you, you be your own judge. When we take the lead in kino, we establish a strong frame. This sweeps a woman into his confident leadership. Women LOVE this. Proactive kino (not reactive kino) helps us to control the frame, and lead her… like a strong man in a dance. He also frames himself as a man with status and freedom. He’s not afraid to take what he wants. And a man who has “stature” and acts freely attracts women.

The Steps to Kino Esculation- How to make your touch feel natural

Kino escalation starts in the Attraction phases and continues all the way to Sex. Try to get physical as soon as you know there is attraction, and then continue escalating slowly over a number of hours. The escalation is based on her comfort level, not on any time limit. Your comfort level as the man is not really an issue. It is the girl’s comfort level that dictates the pace of the game.




Be mysterious with your kino Escalation-Two steps forward, one step back.

It’s vitally important to build kino slowly and unevenly. If you’re touching her in a way that she likes, do it for a moment … then stop! Back up. A few minutes later, go forward again. Starting this pattern early reduces last-minute resistance, but more importantly is puts powerful thought in her head. If she likes your hand on her knee, and you take it away, she’s thinking, “I liked that. I want more of it.” This makes her highly receptive to your next advance. You should always be the one to disengage kino during the attraction, comfort, and seduction phases of a set. If a girl isn’t ready for us to go the next step and pushes us away, no problem. Stop and try again later. Allow her time to feel more comfortable.


Confidence is sexy and importantly does not make you appear uncertain or unclear about what you’re doing. Whether you’re talking about your hand on her knee, giving her a hug, or a kiss close, whatever you do should be deliberate, calm, and done as if the last thing on your mind is that she might reject your kino.


Your kino escalation needs to be somewhat dependent on the location you are in. Otherwise you may embarrass the girl and lower her social value, which will only reduce her comfort instead of increasing it. If she is with her friends or in a public venue only light kino may be appropriate. To go further, into mid and heavy kino, you should first isolate the girl or move her to a more private venue. The best time to go for an escalation is when she is at an emotional highpoint, or you can create the mood you want as part of the kino routine. Sometimes, a woman isn’t crazy about your kino. This is okay! Kino is so important that, when you’re learning, if you don’t occasionally go slightly too far, too fast then you’re almost certainly not escalating enough! However, you must be sensitive to the subtle signals that a woman sends which say, “You just went a little too far.” When this happens, you should deliberately, back off. Don’t flinch or jerk back like a spooked rabbit, but just be aware that her comfort level has changed. It’s okay: you can, and should, escalate again later. All she’s saying to you is “not yet.”

Keep your touch light and feathery and remember to smile and be playful.

Don’t just plop your hand on her. Let it move, stroke likely. Touch, slide, release. Let go. Everything is light, fluid, and fleeting and comfortable. Be aware that a girl who likes you will often touch you a lot to help build the physical connection. The girl may also skip ahead to a later kino escalation step than the one you were on, in which case you can also skip ahead to that step by reciprocating her touch. Whenever the girl escalates, you can consider all lower levels of kino to be unlocked. Furthermore, the girl may also drop hints that she wants you to escalate, such as looking at your lips to indicate that she wants to be kissed. Make sure that you are open for anything and take it as far as it will go that night.

How do we go from the early stages of meeting a women to generating strong attraction

Light kino- Early stage

When you first meet a girl, it’s important to establish that you’re comfortable touching her. Simple things like touching her arm with the back of your hand to emphasize a point in conversation send strong messages. Be willing to let your bodies touch if you’re talking together in a crowded club. Rest your hand on the small of her back or her hip while you talk, or on her knee if you’re seated next to each other. Never pull back from physical contact – and whenever its natural to touch, touch.

Start first with light kino to break the initial physical barrier. This is short, almost incidental kino that you can use in a public setting. You focus on the most public parts of her body: hands, arms and shoulders. Your touch should be friendly and playful, the same way that you would touch your buddies. It makes her feel more comfortable and shows her that you are physically compatible. Keep it light and do not linger. As long as you keep things playful she will not resist the touch, as opposed to you trying to take something from her. Here are a few examples:

Greeting – When you are introduced to a girl that is a good opportunity to start breaking down the physical barrier. Rather than going for a regular handshake, introduce yourself in a way that immediately sets you apart and makes her remember you. For example, by giving her the rock or some other special greeting that you have made up.

Accidental arm touch – While talking to her you can lightly brush against her arm.
Shoulder touch – Briefly touch her shoulder while speaking, as if pulling her in to hear you better.
Patting – When the girl says something even remotely uncool, you can pat her on the shoulder and shake your head.
Short handholding – Another cold reading routine you can use when you have her hand is to place two fingers on her wrist, as if checking her pulse. Then say, “Just as I thought, you’re attracted to me. The heart never lies.” as you give her hand back.
Thumb-wrestling – This is a great game to use when challenging the girl to do something. You always want to win.
High five – Can be used for instance to highlight a commonality you share.

Mid kino escalation- Building comfort and getting the kiss

As the set progresses, you must confidently escalate, and your touch should become more deliberate. Whereas early-set kino can feel casual and incidental, an element of deliberateness should enter your kino here. Many men new to approaching women get stuck at this point, because they get nervous. “Your hesitation equals her reservation.” The more you wait, delay, or fail to strike when the opportunity presents itself, the less receptive she will be when you finally do escalate.
After she is comfortable with light kino you progress to mid kino. This kino is still playful, but a bit more intimate and overt. You can now go for slightly more private body parts such as her back, waist and legs. At this level longer touches can also be introduced. However, before you do it is a good idea to perform a short or incidental kino escalation move around that area first, to test her comfort level before you go for a longer touch. For instance, you can let your leg brush against hers, or gently tap her thigh while making a point, to see if she would be comfortable with longer kino on her legs. Here are some more mid kino escalation examples:

Arm-in-arming – As you are walking you can lock arm in arm with her to escort her.
Hand on her leg – Put your hand on her knee. Then, when she expects that is all you will do you squeeze her knee, going from sensual to playful in an instant.
Hand on your leg – Take her hand and place it on your leg.
Dancing – If you have a dance floor you can take advantage of that to get some serious kino going. Ask her, “You know how to dance?” When she says <Yes!> say “Let’s go” as you take her hand and lead her to the dance floor.
Hand play – Let your fingers play with her hand. Keep in mind that as with most kino escalation this is just subtext. Your conversation should not reflect what you are doing.
Soft touch – Run your fingertips slowly over the backside of her hand, her inner arm or neck. This touch can feel really good.
Caressing back – Put your hand on her back and start caressing her. Then, when she expects you to be sensual you go back to being playful by tickling her or snapping her bra.
Stomach touch – While you talk about fitness you can give her a compliment on her flat stomach as you slide your hand over it. When you do this you can get a sense for whether she would be comfortable with a longer touch around that area, such as having your hand around her waist.​

Heavy Kino- How to sexually esculate

When she is comfortable with mid kino you can move on to heavy kino. This includes more intimate areas – such as her neck and facial area: ears, lips and hair. Note that this is still comfort building. Heavy kino does not include erogenous zones such as her breasts, crotch or inner thighs. Those areas are not paid any direct attention until Foreplay, where the intent is sexual arousal. Making out can arouse you, so make sure not to cross the line until you are at a seduction location. As with mid kino, you can go for incidental touches first before you go for more overt ones.

Hair play – Run your hand through her hair or twirl it around while looking into her eyes. To see if she would be comfortable with you touching her hair, you can lead up to it by for instance brushing a stray hair out of her face.

Hair pull – Reach behind her neck and gently pull a fistful of her hair downwards. It feels really good.
Smelling – In the middle of a conversation you can reach over and smell her neck. Say “Mmm, you smell so… good” and then continue on with the conversation.
Biting – Pull her close and say “I want to bite you”. Then give her a little bite on the neck.
Sit on lap – Take her hand and move it above her head so that she spins around. Then, when her back is towards you, sit her down on your lap and hug her from behind.
Arm around shoulder – Slide your hand along her shoulder and let it rest there in a 90-degree angle. It is protective and shows a strong masculine presence
Kissing with release – There are many good techniques for kissing a girl. One would be to put on some flavored chapstick and say, “You know what the best part about chapstick is? Here, smell it”. Let her smell it and then continue, “It not only smells like strawberries, it actually tastes like strawberries too. Check it out”. And then you go in and kiss her.

Lastly, be aware that some men have a lot of success with women by intentionally pushing women out of their comfort zone, and then backing off if they get some resistance. This can be very powerful, and while it will put off some women, it will be effective with far more: the DHV you get from the confidence usually far outweighs any small amount of discomfort she feels. This requires some careful calibration and experience to get right, though.

Key Thing About Kino Escalation

A key thing about kino escalation is that if it is a big deal to you then it becomes a big deal for her. Therefore, when you escalate do not make a big deal about it, because it is not. If you think it is natural then it is and she will perceive it so too. Be congruent so it does not seem awkward or contrived. Show a strong intent and be sure to expect a positive outcome. A lot of times the best way to move things forward is just to give commands: “Come here”, “Give me your hand”, “Sit down”, “Let’s go”. Girls are attracted to a guy that takes the initiative and leads the situation. If you feel hesitant whether to go for it or not, just remember that it is always on and go for it. Make it happen.