The social structure in which an individual finds him or herself influences and can determine their social actions and responses. In Australia this is especially pronounced, and it’s something that you must change if you want to have success
Unfortunatly in todays society we are conditioned by unrealistic movies from hollywood, the illy headlines from the media and trends on social media. It’s so easy to be consumed by the herd. You musty remove yourself from this behaviour to become a leader.
We have become too smart for our own good and have allowed social conditioning to override the instinctual strong man with the thoughtful, sensitive man. So sensitive he is afraid to approach women, afraid to tell them his opinion, and afraid to demand that they live up to their potential for him. Women find this attractive. Unfortunatly hollywood and the media is trying to condition us to be the sensitive man. And it doesnt work sadly.
When I first started talking to women I couldn’t understand why they would choose the jerk in school rather than the guys who listened to their problems and did thoughful things for her. Women aren’t attracted to jerks because they like abuse, bad boys tend to possess attractive qualities. You can learn to develop these attractive qualities without being a jerk. Don’t be a wuss or her little boy, be the MAN her unconscious mind wants. Scroll below to see the 8 Social Conditioning that may be hindering you with women.
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It’s fine to have manly desires, it’s natural. Yet a lot of men feel guilty for these drives and try to suppress them. There’s nothing wrong with assuming a dominant role and letting others follow. People are attracted to strength esspecially women. It’s more important to become a leader of men then have to bow to societies pressure The truth is that those drives are absolutely essential and exist because they successfully help propagate the human race.
The social stigma of sex is a complex process, but it boils down to the fact that because reproduction is a competition no one wants you to have more sex than them. We hide sex from others, and only talk about it to warn them that it’s bad. Being normal and following the herd is not attractive in todays society.
What REALLY works is having your internal conditioning set right. Every way you interact and every dynamic you introduce between you and a woman is going to be determined by your inner beliefs and being.
A tragedy of a thought process. THE FIRST thing you must realize is that women LOVE SEX. Biologically we do differ, but compulsion and physical drive for sex is just as important to women as it is to us. They LOVE sex.
The Number one fear in dealing with men for a woman is being thought of as “easy” or “a slut”.
Women enjoy sex more than men in truth, they can last alot longer and have it multiple times. The studies and statistics say otherwise because women are outright conditioned to lie and say this, even when anonymously asked. It seems even in a “herd mentality” or evolutionary manner women have been trained to lie like this for the greater good of them all. What I mean is it seems they almost do this automatic, they don’t think to themselves “I want to deceive this person” they really seem to THINK they don’t like sex, YET FEEL that sex is their entire drive in life.
Men try to qualify themselves and make up for it as “PAYMENT” for her “gift of sex to us”. We then say nice things to her and give her gifts and support her with our hard work. This is no conspiracy theory, it is just fact if you look beyond the television and what women SAY, but start to watch women’s actions. 99.99% of good-looking women have sex, yet still say they don’t like it and that guys aren’t important to them. Stop and think for a moment why they would be doing this if what they say is true. We share the same urges, when you go home alone and lonely after a long day at work so does a women on the other side of your apartment, wanting your company. If you don’t approach, someone else will. I Will!
A woman can be a “mother” or a “writer” or a hell even a “soldier”. Women with an identity outside their gender aren’t offended when someone talks about “women”, just as men aren’t offended by talk of “men” because we usually have an identity outside our gender.
So KNOW that women are VERY scared of being thought of as a sexual fiend who not only wants us men same as we want them, but NEEDS our sex badly. To reveal this to men too often or too much is like breaking an unspoken untaught code amongst women.
Think back to high school, a big workplace or college. There was probably a fairly attractive maybe even stunning woman or girl there. Intelligent, fun to talk to, maybe even a real decent genuine human being. She would have easily been “one of the in crowd”. She fucked a couple guys though. Maybe just didn’t know the guys well. Maybe one guy she fucked was the boyfriend of the “top dog chick”. Whatever the reason, she is “out”. Basically thought of as lower than she is, less than she is as a person. Branded “lower” because of allowing her love of sex to go against social rules and conditionings.
But realize here, physically healthy normal women do like sex at a biological level just as much and sometimes more even than we do. They are just conditioned against it at spontaneous or promiscuous levels. Conditioned against making the first move sexually and are also conditioned to say they don’t enjoy it.
This can be perceived by “nice guy culture” as an excuse for a poor love life and justified because they are such catchy sayings.Many guys who are conditioned that women don’t like sex tend to then also not be sexual in nature to appease them.”Well I wasn’t pushy with her, I wasn’t desperate or needy for sex” “she still didn’t have sex with me or even pay attention to me” “women must not like sex”. “I was nice to her and she was mean to me” All excuses. You need to learn how to be a man and take reponsibility. This is why inner game is more important than outer game. Our Mind dictates our actions. Are you only being nice to get something in return?
In other words feel what you are. Feel your desire; don’t quell it for worry you’ll be thought of one way or another. Your actions and words are how you will be thought of (more on this later, lot more). Women can’t read your mind and tell what you are thinking, and even if they could, quelled sexuality would not be a turn on. This leads us to our next example.
This conditioning turns in to a perception sometimes. EVEN worse. You just talk to a woman you sexually desire but don’t show any desire, she in turn responds well. You maybe even try to act disinterested. “Alright she is liking me” you think. You then later on make an advance, and get “we should just be friends” or “I have to get up early”. Also known as letting you down easy.
Drag it on with getting her phone number, meeting her, taking her out on a date later, drag it on long as you like, but if she doesn’t see you as a sexual being, an attractive sexual partner, closing time comes, then it’s all been just a big waste of time.
Never hide your sexual desires to be “liked”. Never pretend “oh I’m not interested in you” to get past her conditioning against sex. This will not only backfire it will waste your time. I’m guilty of this at time even after years of practice.
“Chicks dig my sense of humor”
“Damn John gets laid a lot, must be cause he keeps the chicks laughing”
A commonly observed scenario: a woman laughs at guy’s jokes, and then ends up having sex with him later on. Predictably, every guy there who sees it says, “She must like a guy with a sense of humor”, and proceed to go out and ENTERTAIN, rather than attract women! in It important to not create a non sexual rapport with jokes and funny stories without alo building attraction. If you ever come to a course I’ll tell you a story of me in a New York Comedy Club.
JOKES without building attraction are not helpful.
When a woman is asked, “what do you like in a guy?” she doesn’t usually say “LOOKS and GOOD SEX” or else be branded a slut, as above was mentioned she wouldn’t say that. SO, she grumbles the stock answer “a guy with a sense of humor”. Which is true at least, she does LIKE a sense of humor.
She LIKES those funny men; she doesn’t HAVE SEX WITH those funny men unless they happen to be attractive as well as funny.
A sense of humor isn’t a bad thing, but it’s not sexually motivating or progressive. Stand up comedians are often natural entertainers because they have learned that their poor looks can be accepted that way. In the same way the guys with conditioning type four do. Check stand or bar stool comedians are the same entity with less talent. At the end of the night they go home and fuck the sleeve of their favorite jacket rather than a woman. Again some people say, “nice guy’s finish last”, because they see the funny entertainer go home alone. These conditionings are all linked in a real bad way.
Again it doesn’t hurt to be unique, but there’s that LIKE word again. Women do not say to themselves “WOW this 450lb fat guy with greasy hair and pimples just landed on a space ship and can levitate, I want to him to take me home tonight. A LOT of guys spend all their time trying to be so different they forget to just be a natural masculine sexual man. Be a fun confident man and live a lifestyle that attracts women.
” I think she’s hot but she doesn’t make anyone envy me”
YOUR satisfaction is what counts. If you don’t have actual desire for sex, you shouldn’t be trying to get laid for other people to look upon you better. DROP THE EGO.
But if you would really like to be having sex with her, GREAT, DO IT. Anyhow people will deny your success to feel better about themselves and say your chick isn’t hot and that their chicks are, so don’t bother listening to it.Thinking you should be a ladies man, or that you should be getting at least one chick a month in bed, thinking you should have a girlfriend, thinking anything about your sex life and who it makes you as a person is worthless. YOUR desires are all you should care about.
This may sound simple and a waste of time to say. But MANY guys I’ve met are fueled by this ego of a “what do people think of me” kind. What I mean is they heard I was some sort of Casanova and tried to meet me, asked me out to a bar etc. Most of these were guys who just wanted a girlfriend, maybe wanted to be able to get laid once in a while, but they came out guns blazing, “I want to lay a new chick every week” they would say, when only maybe 1 in 200 guys have that kind of a genuine sexual drive. Even then, once he does it for a couple months it gets old, the excitement wears off and more time needs to be taken in between. These giant figures are all just his ego talking, not his true desire.
“Women need a lot of wooing to get them in bed”
Rubbish!. I don’t buy women fancy dinners. I don’t buy women flowers. I don’t buy women little drinks with umbrellas in them. I don’t offer to buy women cars, I wouldn’t even if I could afford to. I know they love sex and that’s what they really want, I don’t need to qualify their sex being shared with me with gifts or luxury.
The guy from my example above for instance. LOVED to send girls drinks with his number in a napkin wrapped around it. You know how many called him ever? NONE.
The same guy, when we finally did get him approaching women. would start out with how wonderful and beautiful she was. I don’t use this guy in so many examples because he is the worst I ever met, but because he was so common to the rest of the men I’ve trained. It goes for women as well. If the attraction isn’t there, and you do nothing to amplify any base small level of attraction, you have just wasted your money or compliments.
Tell her she’s a stunning marvel of a woman or offer to buy her dinner in the restaurant you are eating in as your first line? You’ll probably get taken up on it; but she will wonder why you did something like this. Rather than presenting YOU to her, you have shown her that “indeed this drink with the umbrella in it is of higher value than me”.
Really good looking women are stuck up”
“The best lookers out there all have a man already’
LOOKS OBSESSION is what this is called.
Looks and attraction at a biological first sight level are in the eye of the beholder. 9 Times out of ten if you truly look at a woman and she is REALLY your exact type, “your 10”, she will see YOU ALSO as FAR more attractive than say your “6” would see you back. If you don’t believe me go test it out for yourself, approach 10 women total. 5 should be very average to plain looking 5 should be your EXACT type. The results will shock you.
]This makes us want to have more sex, which makes more babies and makes the race survive, pretty common sense I suppose. I suppose it makes sense if you don’t go by societies “the 10”, as your 10 out of ego, or think that the women you find most attractive must be the same ones ALL other men find most attractive so they will be in too much demand for you to get.
Watch TV with any other guy that doesn’t look much like you or come from the same gene pool and rate women 1-10. Some of your absolute 10s will be his 7s and vice versa.
Tastes vary, and a great way to get the women you TOTALLY want is to of course go for the women you totally want, it’s the only way really. Funny thing is they tend to reciprocate better than “easier average” women do, as there are no “average women” really, it’s all in the sexual genetic makeup/eye of the beholder.